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tooth · 09-27-2004, 07:53 AM

My 2 cents...

You pretty much have to let her go, unless you don't mind looking insecure and jealous. It sucks, but you have to take the high road.

But shame on her for even putting you in this situation. If she loves and respects you, she should never willingly put herself into a postion where you have to decide to trust her or not.

I ran into an old friend this past weekend. A very attractive member of the opposite sex. She is someone with whom I have never had sparks of any kind. My wife knows her too, and likes her. Just a nice sweet girl.

We chatted for quite a while, and I found out that she works only about 5 minutes away from me. So we talked about having lunch together sometime. Innocent enough. Just an old friend, no old romantic feelings or anything like that. But after thinking about things for about two seconds, I quickly decided that the only way I would have lunch with her, would be if my wife could join us.

Why? Because I respect my wife enough to continually prove to her that she means that most to me. Even if it means passing up an innocent visit with an old friend. Why would I willingly want to put her in a position to experience the pain of deciding whether she trusts me or not?

09-27-2004, 07:53 AM	#9 (permalink)
tooth Addict	My 2 cents... You pretty much have to let her go, unless you don't mind looking insecure and jealous. It sucks, but you have to take the high road. But shame on her for even putting you in this situation. If she loves and respects you, she should never willingly put herself into a postion where you have to decide to trust her or not. I ran into an old friend this past weekend. A very attractive member of the opposite sex. She is someone with whom I have never had sparks of any kind. My wife knows her too, and likes her. Just a nice sweet girl. We chatted for quite a while, and I found out that she works only about 5 minutes away from me. So we talked about having lunch together sometime. Innocent enough. Just an old friend, no old romantic feelings or anything like that. But after thinking about things for about two seconds, I quickly decided that the only way I would have lunch with her, would be if my wife could join us. Why? Because I respect my wife enough to continually prove to her that she means that most to me. Even if it means passing up an innocent visit with an old friend. Why would I willingly want to put her in a position to experience the pain of deciding whether she trusts me or not?