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The picture does get a little clearer, Victor.
You characterize this guy as a bum and say that your daughter has run around with the wrong crowd (gang types). I now have a better perspective on this, and I can even see why you did what you did. There is not much worse IMO than someone not taking responsibility for their actions. Unfortunately, getting him convicted of SR hasn't forced him to take responsibility, and all it has done is drive a wedge between you and your daughter.
This may sound like a flip flop, but I belive you have the justification for your actions. Not because he victimized your daughter, but because he is not being the man/father that he should (assuming he is the father). Living up to responsiblity is a measure of a person. He has obviously not done that.
Being justified in your actions, does not solve your problem, however. This is really the issue at heart. She is young and doesn't totally understand life yet. What it means to be a single mother with no money/insurance, etc. I understand this is why you have done what you have done. You are being a good parent... but again, that is now what's at issue here. You now have to come to a very hard decision. Either you cave on your position and work things out somehow, or you stick to your guns and your daughter probably walks out of your life.
Perhaps letting her have a go at it on her own is not such a bad idea. She may realize that you were right all along. Just let her go in such a way that she knows that she can always come back. Make sure she realizes that you love her and just want what's best for her and her child. Then give her space and see what happens.
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Every passing hour brings the Solar System forty-three thousand miles closer to Globular Cluster M13 in Hercules — and still there are some misfits who insist that there is no such thing as progress.
Kurt Vonnegut - Sirens of Titan
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