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Seer666 · 09-25-2004, 06:51 AM

Touchy issue. Hope this doesn't sound to bad but...
Point 1. If he is saying it is his, then the hell with the test. He admits it, and if his name is on the birth certificate, that is leagly binding UNLESS a test proves other wise. So, if he put his name down as the dad, he HAS stepped up to the plate, and you need to rethingk your stance here. If he wants to be a father to this child, then good for him. It is more then many want to do.

Point 2. From what I am reading, while you try to be a part of your daughters life, you are not the main focus of it. That means that from her view, you are there to lend support, not disapline. Yes, you are her father, and you should do whatever you can to help her, even if it is not what she wants at the time, but, Would you want someone you only see on the weekends to tell you how to run your life? Not an attack on you my friend, just wanting you to see what may be her veiw. This hard line stance you are take, given the realationship as I perseive it from these words ona web page, is probably not the best way to go if you want her to think happy thoughts of you later in life.

Point 3. You insistance on your daughter being avictom her may not be right. Kids grasp this world at a frighteningly young age these days, and while in someways they still are kids, they are also a lot more grown up then the older generations were at there age. If I was a father, I would shot the son of a bitch that touched my little girl, but at the same time, i would also have to face that it was something SHE desided to do as well. Unless it was flat out rape, and then niothing could save the fucker from my wrath. But, don't view her as a victim here. Treat her like a thinking adult. I'm sure that is all she really wants, and your hard line stance is a slap in the face to her veiw of herself as a free minded person.

Sit down and talk to her, like an adult, and let her know how you you worry and fear for her, and how much you love her. Don't come off angry, or talk down to her. You will lose her in a flash if you do. find out what she wants, and find a way that you can both live with this situation and each other. What you think of this man, in the lopng term, has no relivence to the situation. Once she is 18, if she wants to be with him, she will, and you can do nothing about it. Don't lose a child here man, gain a family.

09-25-2004, 06:51 AM	#12 (permalink)
Seer666 Oh dear God he breeded Location: Arizona	Touchy issue. Hope this doesn't sound to bad but... Point 1. If he is saying it is his, then the hell with the test. He admits it, and if his name is on the birth certificate, that is leagly binding UNLESS a test proves other wise. So, if he put his name down as the dad, he HAS stepped up to the plate, and you need to rethingk your stance here. If he wants to be a father to this child, then good for him. It is more then many want to do. Point 2. From what I am reading, while you try to be a part of your daughters life, you are not the main focus of it. That means that from her view, you are there to lend support, not disapline. Yes, you are her father, and you should do whatever you can to help her, even if it is not what she wants at the time, but, Would you want someone you only see on the weekends to tell you how to run your life? Not an attack on you my friend, just wanting you to see what may be her veiw. This hard line stance you are take, given the realationship as I perseive it from these words ona web page, is probably not the best way to go if you want her to think happy thoughts of you later in life. Point 3. You insistance on your daughter being avictom her may not be right. Kids grasp this world at a frighteningly young age these days, and while in someways they still are kids, they are also a lot more grown up then the older generations were at there age. If I was a father, I would shot the son of a bitch that touched my little girl, but at the same time, i would also have to face that it was something SHE desided to do as well. Unless it was flat out rape, and then niothing could save the fucker from my wrath. But, don't view her as a victim here. Treat her like a thinking adult. I'm sure that is all she really wants, and your hard line stance is a slap in the face to her veiw of herself as a free minded person. Sit down and talk to her, like an adult, and let her know how you you worry and fear for her, and how much you love her. Don't come off angry, or talk down to her. You will lose her in a flash if you do. find out what she wants, and find a way that you can both live with this situation and each other. What you think of this man, in the lopng term, has no relivence to the situation. Once she is 18, if she wants to be with him, she will, and you can do nothing about it. Don't lose a child here man, gain a family. __________________ Bad spellers of the world untie!!! I am the one you warned me of I seem to have misplaced the bullet with your name on it, but I have a whole box addressed to occupant.