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In general, I agree with xim. If you're already a friend, it's hard to change the perception from being just a friend to a romantic candidate. And if you are going to succeed in doing so, it has to be slow and gradual. As xim said, hoping for a jump from 0-100% will only leave you disappointed.
But this wasn't a 0-100% jump. This isn't a long-time friendship. He met her a month ago in a class. Impressions are still being made. What's more, they've already spent at least one night cuddling and making out. Thats a fair deal past standing within a foot of her and the casual touch. I'd say thats an indication of a good 75% already there. And since, from the info provided, they were already on the cusp of a relationship, it didn't seem like a bad idea to set an early precedence of open communication, which is something greyeyes is going to need if he wants a long-term relationship with her.
I still think the heart-to-heart was the right thing to do, and it wasn't that he was necessarily rejected. It let her know his ambition and where his intentions lie. It also let her know of his respect for her and her wishes, and his willingness to be open and honest with her. Those aren't bad things for her to know.
As for what to do now, I second xim's suggestions. Make sure she knows you exist, that you still enjoy her company, and that you're still open for a relationship whenever she finds her closure. And because I don't know how to do the specific quote in the quick reply, "keep yourself as being the first thing she will see as soon as she regains visiblity while dust settles from her last relationship."
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