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Originally Posted by victorjara
My sixteen year old daughter, who has been living with her mother since a divorce 11 years ago, informed me last year that she was pregnant. My grandchild was born 10 months ago, a beautiful boy. I accepted the pregnancy and child, but asked some questions and found out the dad was 20, and she had just turned 16 at the time.
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This is going to sound harsh, and I'm sorry about that. It might be just how you wrote the above-quoted passage, and you could clarify it further.
So, you divorced when your daughter was 5, and the way you phrased "informed me" sounds like you haven't really been involved in her life in those intervening years. She hadn't had a father figure, and instead latched onto this guy.
Now, you suddenly get involved in a big way, but not a good way; you are doing everything to remove this guy from her life, who is her emotional center right now. Of course she will hate you for that. I know nothing of your daugher or her boyfriend, perhaps he is a heel, but it is also possible that there could be real love there.
If this isn't accurate, please correct me.