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My brother, who is 6 years younger but a foot taller, punched me once in the chest and I turned and told him that if he touched me like that again I would call the police. I forget what it was about. He had a terrible temper for a long time. He's just now at 24 learning to control it a little better. Another time he punched hubby over hubby slamming the door of my brother's car. Hubby did it cause he was mad that my brother had sped through a busy parking lot at well over 20. That was caused cause a woman had pissed my brother off - just domino effect. I stepped between hubby and bro when Bro pulled his fist back to punch again. I grabbed his collar and said "Don't you dare."
I'm now sure what it is that's kept him from hitting me again really. Maybe it's cause I'm still his big sis even though he's a foot taller. Maybe it's cause he can count on my keeping my word and calling the police. He and I have sparred in fun as well and perhaps he knows I could hold my own if we did get into a real fistacuffs. Whatever the reason I don't plan to disrupt the status-quo. My bro had punched Dad and Mom as well and broken several of Dad's ribs and sprained my Mom's ankle.
In the end it seems that when I look him in the eye with no fear his bullying ends. Just part of our relationship I think. It's funny cause neither one of us will tattle on the other on anything we learn about each other. He knows I won't tolerate his temper though. Never have. I'll tolerate anything else he does though.
No one else in my family physically abuses though. My mother is emotionally manipulative though and my Dad is enstable psychologically (suicidal and struggles with depression). Lovely family, eh? Funny though if any outside force were to attempt to harm our family I know we'd stand by each other and fight it out as a team. Not sure why the dynamics works that way, just does.
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