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Originally Posted by xim
How far off am I?
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Not too far off really. But when I said we don't fight that much, or we hardly fight, I think it was more like "we don't fight much compared to...." I am actually someone who is attracted to conffrontation, I will argue with someone even though I agree with them just to argue. I try not to do that with her and try and keep her calm cause she has a temper. But there have been fights (one) where I told her to get the hell out of my house. Most of our "fights" are much more civilized and yelling is not what happens, more just the I am sick of you and I will just to everything myself look. I hardly ever get upset at her unless she is mad with me.
As for not giving her attention, well thats kinda hard cause I am just a loving guy to begin with. But I think you have a point and I might try it to see how it goes. It does seem like she wants what she cannot have so if I make myself unavaliable to her she may want me more....i dunno.
And as for most recently, well she has been OK, we are getting ready to move and I think that has helped some. She still wants to move out but is willing to wait untill we get counciling.
She told me the other day that she is just mostly depressed and thinks about killing herself sometimes. Which is not the first time I have heard her say this. Before we were married and once or twice when we were.
I think the only thing that will fix this is her figuring out what will make her happy. Its not going to be me or the kids or someone else. It is her and untill she can figure out that she needs healing on the inside, this is going to be the way she feels.