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Ditto, communication all the way. But still, I think your wife will be hurt when you try to give her this video...what will you say?
"er, um, here's a dvd...to help...uuuh I'd like it if you did this to me...?"
Good luck! Most likely she will be unhappy with your blunt approach. Much better to give her the idea slowly when you're being intimate. Little steps and eventually she'll catch on, without need for this direct confrontation. Give her subtle hints as to what you want/need...If you don't tell her, how's she going to guess that what she's been doing the whole time isn't pleasing you?
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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.
Fernando Pessoa, 1918
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