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There is a way to act towards a girl which says "we could date each other". If you were meeting a new girl, you could start like this. But since she is already your freind you will have to gradually change the vibe of your hanging out to that. It consists of 3 things i think.
1 touch her [DONT IGNORE THIS IT IS KEY] (start small)
2 compliment her looks (start small)
3 abolish all shame that you may feel for liking her (start small)
I keep saying start small because you have to work you way into it. It should be a seamless slow transition. If you change things too fast, you will will be uncomfortble and nervous, and she will be confused. So start by doing the most you can do that seems natural to your relationship with her the way it is now. If you are scared to change 50% then change 25% or 5% but never change 0%. Dont push it, you want to be cool about whatever is going on. Cool is defined as comfortable. So if you push it and make yourself nervous then you will not be cool. Just go slow and work your fronts of coolness forward.
Really think about yourself. Do you have a weird complusion to hide the fact that you like her? This is very common in people (especailly those who have never had a gf). That serves no purpose whatsover. Think about it. It is very destructive to your cause. You are afraid to compliment her or touch her because even though you want her to be your girlfriend there is still an oddly powerful voice in your head saying "No! She might think I have a crush on her and that would be SOOO embarassing" Its not embarrassing at all it is very liberating. This voice is your enemy. Get rid of it. Start dropping hints that you like her. On the other hand dont go too fast and write her a 9 page love letter out of the blue (made that mistake), thats just scary and confusing. Never say that you like her directly until you are making out with her, keep her wondering how you feel until then, but give her reason to suspect you are interested. You want her to be in a constant mystery wondering "Does he like me? Maybe he does, or maybe he doesn't I dont know Im just not sure" The more she does this the more time she spends in the day thinking about you, and they more under your spell she is. Dont be afraid to say "Cool hat", or compliment her or on some other trivial thing.
Invade her space bubble. Stand closer than seems comofortable to you. Dont freak her out at first, be gradual. Get in the habit of standing closer and closer. Eventually get to where you are standing a foot from her nose (actually, eventually get to where you're lips are touching, but for now a goal of less than 12 inches will suffice)
Start touching her elbows or something innocent. Light, quick, but firm touches. Do it while laughing or joking or whatever, be comfortable, dont be a weirdo. Start out maybe doing it once a day. Make it feel normal. Just touch her from time to time.
Get to where you dont mind telling her that she looks cute. Or If it is easier (and oddly sometime it IS easier) tell her that her OUTFIT looks cute. Maybe even pretty.
If you can, try to put off the vibe that you are doing HER a favor by spending time with her, You are the prize. Fake confidence if you have to. In other words, dont under any circumstances be desperate.
Then touch her shoulders her arms and stuff until it feels normal. If you can do it coolly touch her hand, you dont have to hold it if thats too far. Learn to read palms and do that. Whatever. Anything, just keep moving forward.
Gradually change from telling her shes cute and pretty to calling her (or her accessories) sexy.
As soon as you can work in a tickle fight (on the tummy and sides) go for it. This gets you massive points, and might even make her kinda horny. It seems very innocent, but can get you rolling around on a bed or couch or the floor with a lot of touching and has the effect of feeling very sexual, and also playful is good. If you can get her tickling you back then I wouldnt hesitate to kiss her. If shes happy touching you she will like to kiss you. Anyway, she definaly wont get mad.
If you ever think that MAYBE you could kiss her then KISS HER. If you have the confidence to think its a possibility, then you are a far enough along to just do it. Your not gonna get slapped, I promise. And If you do get slapped it will be good for you to see that its not really that big a deal to get slapped. And when you do kiss her, KEEP KISSING HER.
And of course once you kiss her, its all good.
Key thing is to be gradual,
Hope this helps
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