Girlfriend Problems...
Lately, my girlfriend and I have been doing nothing but arguing. I feel like shit, she feels like shit, and I really don't know if the relationship is going to last very much longer to be honest. I'm not sure where to begin... but here is some background on my current situation.
I'm 19 years old and she's 18 years old. We've been together for a little over a year (14 months to be exact), and for the most part, it's been wonderful. Even though I'm young and fairly inexperienced with serious relationships, I'd say that we're very much in love with one another. Lately, though, everything has sucked.
We're both going to school (and living at home -- she lives 20 minutes away and goes to another school) and working part-time. We both have very busy schedules right now, and we're lucky to see each other for more than an hour or two every week. It really has seemed to put a lot of stress on us. It wouldn't be nearly as bad if we *knew* that we wouldn't be able to see each other; ie living far away... but being so close geographically and yet not being able to see each other for more than an hour at a time is really hurting. It's like there's always that hope that we'll be able to see each other and it gets shattered again and again and again.
We talk on the phone every night for a couple hours. It used to be all happy/lovey dovey/friendly talking... but now it's just fighting and not knowing what to say. I don't know why this happened... the only reason I can think of would be the lack of seeing each other.
We actually "took a break" for one day -- it was her idea. She said that since she didn't get to see me anyway we might as well take a break so that we don't get sad/mad when we can't be together. I went along with it, but I really didn't want to. A day later, our "break" was over, and everything seemed like it was okay again, but now -- about a week after that, it's all going down the shitter again.
What should we do? I really don't know what to say to her about all this. I want to make everything all better, but I just don't know what to do. Any advice or commentary you have to offer is very much appreciated.
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