I know that I am late getting in on this discussion - but pls just humor me for a sec..
My ex and I are still good friends. She is a sales rep for a software co. and she came to me with a situation that was similar. She had taken a pretty large client out for dinner and he brought up politics, specifically the situation(s) in the Mid-East and how he thought it was time to "nuke them all!" Well she is from Iran, and just by her name you would know that she was probably from that part of the world. She just ended the eve. as quick as she could and left before she said something she would regret. Was he a insensitive boob? Absolutely. Does it matter? No. Not when it comes to business.
But - I would agree with most of the people here that your friends success is certainly at least in part due to her personality. With T&A dime a dozen on the web especially I think we underestimate how important it is. So I would tell her to absolutely stick to her guns and her belief, because it is inherent to her success.
So why would I tell the person I care about to turn the other cheek?? I understand why - I work in same industry and have people who report to me and my concerns at work are 1. Stay Professional and 2. Get the Contract. But I shouldn't have gone down that road with her. Funny how adament I was that I was right until I read your post. Fuck. I feel like a bit of a heel.
Sorry for the long post and if all this was TMI - I thought it kinda interesting the way the two situations compared. If it helps to make the story any more palatable, my ex is a knockout and could easily do the web porn thing. (probably shoulda mentioned that at the start - somebody would still be reading)
