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I don't think cheating on her with some girl would "wake her up" at all. A lot of people that are cheated on react this way. However it's not about fixing, or healing, or making something better...or waking someone up. It's just about vengeance. Petty, useless, perhaps justified vengeance. So far you've been the mature one in this relationship, I hope you'll continue on that path.
As for these "new guy" things... I think there's a difference between jacking off to downloaded naked pictures of some girls you don't even know, and fantasizing about your co-worker while you're getting off. When your spouse would rather masturbate than have sex with you, this usually suggests there is a problem. While clearly upset, you seem to play her fuck-ups down a bit. You're giving her a chance after a chance after a chance after a chance.
My advice? Talk to a lawyer before she does. Prepare, get ready, gather your ammo. Seriously, it's not funny when it comes right down to it, you better be prepared. Love is wonderful, marriage is lovely, but divorce oftentimes means war. And based on what you've told us so far, I wouldn't trust the children in her care. You or the children do not seem to be her highest priorities right now. Which brings her maturity into question, in my opinion.
Her behaviour is selfish and irresponsible, and at the moment, you are an enabler. She knows that you'll stay home with the kids, she knows you'll foot the bill, you've become reliable, boring, unexciting, flavorless. So take initiative. Show her that you're not one to be fucked with. Things might take a turn for the better, in which case you'll end up with more hand in the relationship, and even if they didn't take a turn for the better, you'd at least be ahead in the game.
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