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Yeah. she's probably in the back of her mind/not even aware that she is jealous that you can go out and have fun without her.
When you want to go out instead of talking on the phone to her (granted 4-5 hrs. is a hella long time) what she hears is "I'm not important/interesting/fun/liked enough for him to even want to talk to me." It does hurt to hear that someone prefers to go out instead of talking to you. Reverse the situation, you would probably feel the same.
I'm the same way sometimes with my bf. You know the old saying "Misery Loves Company" Of course that doesn't really help you out much with your problem.
What you need to do is set up some rules and limitations. Compromising is the key to keeping your relationship working.
You should keep your phone conversations to under an hour (you have homework to do also right?) I can't believe you both don't run out of stuff to say after awhile! Also if there are some days that either you or she is extremely busy, you should just mandate that as a no phone day, stressed out people are never very fun to talk to. You shouldn't have to force conversation and everyone needs some personal time.
If you want to go out, she would probably feel more at ease with it, if you told her when and where and who was going with you. Otherwise she'll just think the worst. (if she's anything like me!) Also I suggest not attending frat parties, strip clubs, etc. those type of places don't have a good reputation as being good clean fun and it will make her mad.
Also after you go out it never hurts to say "Did you know out of all the people there, that you were hotter than all of them? Man I'm glad we are dating."
Also tell her about what happened wherever you went like "This reminded me of you" or "I thought you would think that was funny" So she gets the idea that even when you go out without her you are still thinking of her. Girls like to hear that and be reaffirmed of our status as the GF, but please be honest in saying it!
You can also take her out to the places you go. Like if you want to go out with some friends, say "Next time I see you I'll introduce you to them or they know all about you." Or if you go to a club or out else where, say "I went to this awesome club and I want to go with you next time because I think you might like it."
Then she won't feel left out while your doing stuff because she'll either know the people your hanging out with or know the type of place your going to. Even if she doesn't want to or can't go, you cannot be accused of excluding her from your social life.
You have to make an effort and if she still has a problem with you going out she might be a little too possessive and you might want to reconsider your options. Sorry to be so wordy but I hope this helps you out. I've had the same situation with me and my bf
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