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Supple Cow · 09-12-2004, 12:31 AM

I just came back from the first Ultimate Frisbee team party of the year, and I met a lot of great people. Unfortunately, for every great person I met, there was an equally creepy guy who couldn't take a hint. One guy kept hovering around me until I danced with him (in hopes that he would move on to some other hapless lady afterward). Then the jerk groped my ass. Okay, fine. We've all had quite a bit to drink. Maybe he was confused. Whatever. So I told him explicitly, "Whoa, I don't want to hook up with you," to which he replied, "No, no, it's just a dance."

THEN, he proceeded to grab my ass again. Did he think that I would forget that I didn't want to hook up if I just danced a little longer and had a little more to drink? That only makes it more deplorable! Luckily, my friend [M] was around and I gave him the "help me" face. He came to the rescue and then guarded the seat next to me for a really long time. Girls kept coming up to him to get him to dance, and he would just turn them away because that jerk was still hovering. What a nice kid to sit there for so long. After a while, I felt bad, so I told him to go dance and then just enlisted my other friend to dance with me and keep me unapproachable.

THEN (get this), the same groper comes up, taps my friend, and says, "[S] says I should take her home. I'm leaving now." So my friend, [L] says, "Bye," and ignores the stupid comment about taking me home. Mr. Groper tries again: "I'm supposed to walk her home." What the hell was was he thinking? Does that really ever work? Do guys think they can get away with this? I may have been in a committed relationship for too long, but I just can't bring myself to believe that this is acceptable. So I turned around and glared at him and said, "I'm not going home, and I'm definitely not going home with you." At that, he finally took the hint (really, beyond a hint) and left. Then [S] came up and apologized for being creepy, but I pointed out that he was just being encouraging to a friend and that he couldn't help it if his friend was so creepy that he didn't mention that I already said I wasn't interested.

Creepy people (creeple?) aside, I came out of the situation with a lot of new lady friends (my new teammates), and a number of good male friends to whom I can shoot my "help me" face and expect safe company. I have to say that the thing I miss most about being in a relationship tonight is being able to interact with people that won't try to disrespect my body all the time. Especially since it was last ubertuber to be in my company that way (and he is pretty imposing), I'm really not used to this. I can't say that I ever want to be.

09-12-2004, 12:31 AM	#52 (permalink)
Supple Cow Americow, the Beautiful Location: Washington, D.C.	I just came back from the first Ultimate Frisbee team party of the year, and I met a lot of great people. Unfortunately, for every great person I met, there was an equally creepy guy who couldn't take a hint. One guy kept hovering around me until I danced with him (in hopes that he would move on to some other hapless lady afterward). Then the jerk groped my ass. Okay, fine. We've all had quite a bit to drink. Maybe he was confused. Whatever. So I told him explicitly, "Whoa, I don't want to hook up with you," to which he replied, "No, no, it's just a dance." THEN, he proceeded to grab my ass again. Did he think that I would forget that I didn't want to hook up if I just danced a little longer and had a little more to drink? That only makes it more deplorable! Luckily, my friend [M] was around and I gave him the "help me" face. He came to the rescue and then guarded the seat next to me for a really long time. Girls kept coming up to him to get him to dance, and he would just turn them away because that jerk was still hovering. What a nice kid to sit there for so long. After a while, I felt bad, so I told him to go dance and then just enlisted my other friend to dance with me and keep me unapproachable. THEN (get this), the same groper comes up, taps my friend, and says, "[S] says I should take her home. I'm leaving now." So my friend, [L] says, "Bye," and ignores the stupid comment about taking me home. Mr. Groper tries again: "I'm supposed to walk her home." What the hell was was he thinking? Does that really ever work? Do guys think they can get away with this? I may have been in a committed relationship for too long, but I just can't bring myself to believe that this is acceptable. So I turned around and glared at him and said, "I'm not going home, and I'm definitely not going home with you." At that, he finally took the hint (really, beyond a hint) and left. Then [S] came up and apologized for being creepy, but I pointed out that he was just being encouraging to a friend and that he couldn't help it if his friend was so creepy that he didn't mention that I already said I wasn't interested. Creepy people (creeple?) aside, I came out of the situation with a lot of new lady friends (my new teammates), and a number of good male friends to whom I can shoot my "help me" face and expect safe company. I have to say that the thing I miss most about being in a relationship tonight is being able to interact with people that won't try to disrespect my body all the time. Especially since it was last ubertuber to be in my company that way (and he is pretty imposing), I'm really not used to this. I can't say that I ever want to be. __________________ "I've missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I've lost almost 300 games. Twenty-six times I've been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I've failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed." (Michael Jordan)