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Like everybody said, some people grow up and some don't. In certain bars, you're going to see a larger proportion of those who don't, or haven't yet.
High school was hell. Everything since, no matter how bad, has been better. I've had a lot of growing up to do and, now that I'm approaching 50, I'm about 80 percent there. I've got down the part about seeing through my obligations to others, doing a good job, and being responsible. What I'm still working on is being true to myself and my own feeling instead of deferring to the needs of others -- especially those folks who are very emphatic in stating their needs (but don't actually need much). And, after a rather painful experience recently, I think I'm about ready to take that one by the horns.
As woot implies: pain is how we learn. Wish it could be otherwise. Somebody said, "Pain is the great teacher; under its breath, human souls grow." If I were going to characterize people who don't seem mature, and even myself in the areas where I've been lacking, it's that they'd rather dodge pain than face the truth about themselves, how they act, or what they're doing to themselves or others.
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