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It sounds like he definitely has issues (I wouldn't go so far as to call him a loser) but your response sounds like it was motivated by jealousy and frustration rather than any concern for him. Bottom line, why does it matter to you? If he makes a mistake, he's the one who has to pay for it. (And your sucker parents.) If you really want to help him, listen to him completely sympathetically - this doesn't mean you have to agree with his concerns, just accept that they are valid. And then address those concerns from a place of compassion. It makes a huge difference to say "I understand that you're feeling scared and uncomfortable, but I'm afraid if you come home you'll be missing a huge opportunity for experience that you'll regret for the rest of your life" instead of "grow the fuck up." One's going to make a difference - even if he decides to come home, he will still relate to you like someone who listens to him - and the other is going to make him defensive and upset.
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