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Originally Posted by *Nikki*
No. Don't buy friends..make them for free. Those are REAL friends.
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OK, I have to address that one because I see it all the time and it isnt right... The reason you pay your dues isnt because you are "buying your friends"--its because having a house, and social functions (cocktails, formal, gameday barbeques, whatever) cost
money. That money has to come from somewhere--it comes from dues.
The money should never come into it except to pay for those events. We have several brothers who have different payment plans set up and some who even pay less because they can't afford to pay the full dues. That's fine, it doesnt bother me. There are several who are inactive, whether because of personal choice or in one case financial problems. All of them are still friends with everyone in the fraternity and are welcome at any functions we have.
The bottom line is that it takes money. It would be the same as if you and a bunch of your friends decided to go rent a house together. That rent money doesnt appear out of nowhere, you have to pay it. The notion that I, or anyone else (at least in my experience), is buying their friends is simply wrong.