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My parents divorced when I was 12, and I have lived with both at various times. I was torn between them, and knew not where to place my loyalties, as it seemed to my young mind I must. I have just spent Two days with my son from a marriage that ended in divorce. I had not seen him in over four years. I did not want to destroy his understanding of family by pulling him in two directions and thus relinquished all custody to his mother.
Our visit went wonderfully, and we created a beautiful connection. This is (in my opinion) due to the freedom he has had to form his own mindset, without the influence of divisive parents. Had we stayed together , I have no doubts he would have fared far worse, and developed an unhealthy understanding of love, and togetherness.
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Holding onto anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned. - Buddha
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