ok well i went to autozone... and the guy started laughing right away and said he knew what a pain in the ass it was and they had some lil plastic things that ya stick around the tube and then pushed it into the disconnect... looks like this
http://www.etoolcart.com/ProductImag.../OTC7361-L.gif
so got it off and dumped gas all over myself and then got the new one in and clipped in place... took a bit to get the car started again... had to pump the gas a lil bit the first time... but now its starting fine....
after draining the fuel filter i blew through it... there was quite a bit of resistance... (read on the web that if theres any resistance its clogged) so it was prolly good i changed it....
after doin it im glad i did it instead of payin the people at the shop to do it...
lol my RA just came in and was asking me why it smelled like gas and said i cant have a gas can in here... i showed him the mixture of dirt and gas on my back from the puddle