I think if we were free to express our sexuality whenever and wherever (provided it was consentual) we'd probably be a lot happier and more peaceful. There are some sexual mores that make sense from a utilitarian or even evolutionary point of view (incest is bad for the species because of genetics) but there are others (some might argue that monogamy is one of these) that are completely arbitrary, or that were once utilitarian but have become codified by tradition and really have no reason to exist any more.
As far as sexual preference is concerned, there are two schools of thought. One says that sexuality is largely biologically programmed. The other says that sexuality is entirely socially constructed. I think it has to be both/and - people are wired a certain way, and when you combine that wiring with certain experiences, you get certain outcomes in terms of sexuality. So I don't necessarily think that sexuality is just a continuum and people could slide from homo- to hetero- at will if they just mastered their fears or whatever. I also don't think that sex is always necessary to express love. How would it be if we could express love completely wherever we chose?
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