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MageB420666 · 09-01-2004, 06:46 PM

Well I would just like to put in my 2 cents.

I am almost twenty years old and I was spanked as a child I can still remember several of the occasions. I do not remember what I did wrong but I do know that it wasn't punishment for little misbehaviors. I was spanked when I deserved it. My dad used a belt and that thing hurt like hell, or at least it seemed to at that age, now I realized that my dad was barely swinging at all, but I do remember that he did not wait to cool down, he just kept his anger in control. I would like to think I turned out good, I've never been to jail, exept to visit, and I'm currently studying for a Bachelors in Computer Engineering. I would like to think that I am a case of support for corporal punishment.

Now my older brother is a different matter. He is currently serving a 33 year sentence for second degree murder(he did a plea bargain to get it down from 1st). I do not recall him ever being treated differently then I was and my parents always made it clear that they loved him and just wanted what was best for him. I guess I would just have to say that in his case he was just a little asshole who took just wanted to have a good time and no responsibilities, despite how hard my parents tried to teach him the importance of responsibilty. Now that he is in prison he has calmed down quite a bit and is starting to mature and become more responsible.

Corporal punishment was not the only method my parents used, they would give us time out for misbehavior that wasn't really bad, but worse than just a little disobedience. They didn't send us to our rooms, they made us stand in the coner, usually for about twenty minutes. There were also times that they would just sit us down and explain to us why what we did was wrong.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that you shouldn't use just one form of punishment, it should be varied according to how bad the kid has been. I'm also trying to say that sometimes it doesn't matter how you discipline the kid, he/she is just not going to listen/learn. It is as much a matter of the individual child as it is the form of punishment.

09-01-2004, 06:46 PM	#68 (permalink)
MageB420666 <Insert wise statement here> Location: Hell if I know	Well I would just like to put in my 2 cents. I am almost twenty years old and I was spanked as a child I can still remember several of the occasions. I do not remember what I did wrong but I do know that it wasn't punishment for little misbehaviors. I was spanked when I deserved it. My dad used a belt and that thing hurt like hell, or at least it seemed to at that age, now I realized that my dad was barely swinging at all, but I do remember that he did not wait to cool down, he just kept his anger in control. I would like to think I turned out good, I've never been to jail, exept to visit, and I'm currently studying for a Bachelors in Computer Engineering. I would like to think that I am a case of support for corporal punishment. Now my older brother is a different matter. He is currently serving a 33 year sentence for second degree murder(he did a plea bargain to get it down from 1st). I do not recall him ever being treated differently then I was and my parents always made it clear that they loved him and just wanted what was best for him. I guess I would just have to say that in his case he was just a little asshole who took just wanted to have a good time and no responsibilities, despite how hard my parents tried to teach him the importance of responsibilty. Now that he is in prison he has calmed down quite a bit and is starting to mature and become more responsible. Corporal punishment was not the only method my parents used, they would give us time out for misbehavior that wasn't really bad, but worse than just a little disobedience. They didn't send us to our rooms, they made us stand in the coner, usually for about twenty minutes. There were also times that they would just sit us down and explain to us why what we did was wrong. I guess what I'm trying to say is that you shouldn't use just one form of punishment, it should be varied according to how bad the kid has been. I'm also trying to say that sometimes it doesn't matter how you discipline the kid, he/she is just not going to listen/learn. It is as much a matter of the individual child as it is the form of punishment. __________________ Apathy: The best outlook this side of I don't give a damn.