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Rlyss · 08-31-2004, 04:37 PM

A few years ago I went out to dinner with my sister and our female cousin. We went to a nearby Italian restaurant, and it was somewhat busy. We walked in and I asked the elderly, Italian sterotype waiter if we could have a table for three. He looked at the two women and said he had a table for those two and laughed. Obviously just a joke, he gave us our table and all was fine.

Last Saturday night I went out with my partner to a nice bar in the city, and we asked the bouncer what time they closed. He said the bar closed at three, but tonight it was invitation-only, but women could come in. I didn't have time to register it was a joke, I must've looked dismayed because he laughed and said he was only kidding, and we went in.

Once in we were standing at the bar with our drinks waiting for a table or couches to free up. We noticed an empty sofa in amongst a group of sofas, occupied by people. We asked the group (mixed young men and women) if they were using that sofa, and at first a woman said no, we could have it, but then straight away a young guy said it was taken, but then, you guessed it, laughed and said we could have it.

I was a little 'grr' about the whole thing while we were having our drinks, and I told my girlfriend that it happens to me a lot, particularly when I'm with my sister, or on a date. I'm young (20), so I can't really imagine the same thing happening if I was 40 or older.

Is this some form of cock-blocking? All three times I was (jokingly) dismissed by other men when I was with my girlfriend. Is it an innocent way of showing some sort of power or strength to another man's partner, some primal way of saying 'I'm tougher than him' in the modern context? She said the same thing happens to her, but I've never seen that happen, even from one woman to another, but it seems like it often happens to me if I'm out.

Does this happen to anyone else? Any thoughts?

08-31-2004, 04:37 PM	#1 (permalink)
Rlyss The Pusher Location: Edinburgh	Is this some form of cock-blocking? A few years ago I went out to dinner with my sister and our female cousin. We went to a nearby Italian restaurant, and it was somewhat busy. We walked in and I asked the elderly, Italian sterotype waiter if we could have a table for three. He looked at the two women and said he had a table for those two and laughed. Obviously just a joke, he gave us our table and all was fine. Last Saturday night I went out with my partner to a nice bar in the city, and we asked the bouncer what time they closed. He said the bar closed at three, but tonight it was invitation-only, but women could come in. I didn't have time to register it was a joke, I must've looked dismayed because he laughed and said he was only kidding, and we went in. Once in we were standing at the bar with our drinks waiting for a table or couches to free up. We noticed an empty sofa in amongst a group of sofas, occupied by people. We asked the group (mixed young men and women) if they were using that sofa, and at first a woman said no, we could have it, but then straight away a young guy said it was taken, but then, you guessed it, laughed and said we could have it. I was a little 'grr' about the whole thing while we were having our drinks, and I told my girlfriend that it happens to me a lot, particularly when I'm with my sister, or on a date. I'm young (20), so I can't really imagine the same thing happening if I was 40 or older. Is this some form of cock-blocking? All three times I was (jokingly) dismissed by other men when I was with my girlfriend. Is it an innocent way of showing some sort of power or strength to another man's partner, some primal way of saying 'I'm tougher than him' in the modern context? She said the same thing happens to her, but I've never seen that happen, even from one woman to another, but it seems like it often happens to me if I'm out. Does this happen to anyone else? Any thoughts?