Stompy

I apologize for initially overlooking that statement.

I would have to say you are looking too deeply into the matter to a point where it's at such an irrelevant level where the issues or stances at hand no longer really apply to everyone, but a very small percentage of those who have problems with it.

Sex without emotion is not an impossibility, it's just that you've been conditioned to believe or think otherwise. It has nothing to do with definitions of respect because I can still respect everyone in the manner they deserve. Or maybe I misunderstood that.

I'm not exactly sure how my views on the matter automatically mean I'm not respectful. I can still respect a person I have sex with even though I don't have an emotional attachment. Sex is sex. I have a girlfriend who I love and respect. Now let's just say (for argument's sake) in the event she agreed with me or shared the same viewpoint of mine and I had sex with someone else... I'd still love her, I'd still respect her, it would just be sex for fun with someone else. The sex with my g/f would, of course, be much different and more meaningful (on an emotional level) than the casual sex with whoever. Are you suggesting I wouldn't respect her, or I wouldn't respect the person I had sex with (or neither)? Who exactly am I alienating? I'm certainly not alienating my emotions.. quite the opposite, in fact.

Maybe I worded it wrong... not without emotion, because there is always emotion. In the example above, sex with my girlfriend would be meaningful and more important than sex with another person. The sex with the other person would definitely involve SOME type of emotion, even if it only temporarily exists for that brief period of time, however, it doesn't mean that it will be as STRONG, lasting, or even important as the emotional bond I have with my partner. My partner is who I choose to be with and share my life with. It is completely possible, and not very weird, for someone to casually accept sex with another person and think nothing of it, even if only to enjoy the feelings for that time being.

I don't ACTUALLY participate or follow any of that, but if someone did, I don't see a single thing wrong with it. I respect the fact that my girlfriend doesn't believe that for a second and wants me to remain 100% faithful and only with her. I don't have a problem with that. I guess I've just opened my mind to the fact that there's more possibilities out there.

There's even people on this board who follow (in some ways or another) what I'm talking about. Are you saying they aren't good citizens? Are you saying they're being sinful or alienating themselves/others? I'm just trying to understand what you're getting at.

The first step is thinking outside of the box... away from what society has conditioned you to believe or feel. Or maybe you choose to feel that way, and if so, that's perfectly fine, too. Maybe the whole "casual sex" or "porn" thing isn't for you then. By no means is it sinful. Do you smoke? If not, do you consider that sinful? I mean, it applies to anything you have no interest or desire in, really.

There have been plenty of people who have had sex just for the fun of it... and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that.

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