I think what had more impact on my development was not my parents' divorce (which happened when I was, say, 4) but their horrible relationship with each other once they remarried (when I was 6) and stayed together unhappily for the rest of my childhood - they divorced again when I was 19. It's hard to say "what if" and speculate on how things would have been different if they had just stayed divorce - neither of them was terribly emotionally stable, so it's not like growing up in a chaotic single-parent household would have been much better than growing up in a chaotic household with married parents who don't get along. But I wonder if divorce itself is the functional variable here, or if it's the quality of the parents' relationship? I guess what I'm wondering is whether a child of divorced parents who got along just fine and provided a stable and nurturing environment would do just as well as a child with married parents who got along; while a kid who went through a nasty divorce would be similar to a kid who grew up in with married parents who fought all the time?
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