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Stompy · 08-25-2004, 11:58 AM

Have a link to this study? What groups did they test? When was this test/study taken? Age groups? If the people in question were strongly religious, yeah, I see how it could disrupt the relationship.

I have a hard time believing that any old study was done on a broad group of people that showed porn to have a negative impact in a relationship.

Even if it did, there are other factors that weren't considered like self-esteem. If a woman gets jealous because a guy is watching porn and feels he likes it more than her, it's because of self-esteem (or the guy might really be more into porn).

I posted in another thread regarding "god" about how the human mind finds comfort in numbers. This is applied to anything, and even those who are emotionally attached to sex. If, by tradition, the world around you believes sex to be a sacred and private thing, does that make it true? Not necessarily. It all boils down to what the individual believes in, not society (or should be, anyway). For example, women think they're fat when they aren't because our society pictures ideal women as anorexic models. Why do most people find heavy-set women unattractive? Because everyone else thinks that's the way is is because of the media and spotlight celebs trying to become the most "beautiful" woman in the world. It doesn't make any sense. In some cultures (at least ages ago), heavy people were considered attractive.

The human mind is an impressionable thing.

Aside from that, I don't believe for one second that it negatively effects society. In fact, I'm convinced that society purposely gives it a negative spin just to keep sex "hush hush" and private when there's no reason for it to begin with.

It all boils down to questioning the norm, and sorry, but this is one thing that I just don't agree with society on. What it boils down to is this: I think organized religion is full of it. I believe it was a tool used to keep primitive gullible minds in order, and the who philosophical aspect of it (can you prove/disprove god) is a good one. Personally, I'm agnostic. I simply don't know if there's a god or not. I don't think there's enough to prove or disprove it. There could be a god, but maybe not in the sense that everyone else's human minds think. That being said, our country, and most of what our society believes in, was FOUNDED on these religious ideas. That's great and all, but PLEASE don't expect me to follow them, especially if I'm living in a country that, before anything, is supposed to believe in individual freedom.

If you're religious and you happen to believe sex holds a special place in humanity, good for you! I have nothing against that at all, but do NOT make rules and do NOT judge me based on something that you believe in that I DON'T believe in.

So in the broad sense of living and well being in life, does porn affect that, I don't believe so. Can it? Yes. Just like alcohol can affect one's ability to act civil. Anything can be misused.

08-25-2004, 11:58 AM	#53 (permalink)
Stompy Banned from being Banned Location: Donkey	Have a link to this study? What groups did they test? When was this test/study taken? Age groups? If the people in question were strongly religious, yeah, I see how it could disrupt the relationship. I have a hard time believing that any old study was done on a broad group of people that showed porn to have a negative impact in a relationship. Even if it did, there are other factors that weren't considered like self-esteem. If a woman gets jealous because a guy is watching porn and feels he likes it more than her, it's because of self-esteem (or the guy might really be more into porn). I posted in another thread regarding "god" about how the human mind finds comfort in numbers. This is applied to anything, and even those who are emotionally attached to sex. If, by tradition, the world around you believes sex to be a sacred and private thing, does that make it true? Not necessarily. It all boils down to what the individual believes in, not society (or should be, anyway). For example, women think they're fat when they aren't because our society pictures ideal women as anorexic models. Why do most people find heavy-set women unattractive? Because everyone else thinks that's the way is is because of the media and spotlight celebs trying to become the most "beautiful" woman in the world. It doesn't make any sense. In some cultures (at least ages ago), heavy people were considered attractive. The human mind is an impressionable thing. Aside from that, I don't believe for one second that it negatively effects society. In fact, I'm convinced that society purposely gives it a negative spin just to keep sex "hush hush" and private when there's no reason for it to begin with. It all boils down to questioning the norm, and sorry, but this is one thing that I just don't agree with society on. What it boils down to is this: I think organized religion is full of it. I believe it was a tool used to keep primitive gullible minds in order, and the who philosophical aspect of it (can you prove/disprove god) is a good one. Personally, I'm agnostic. I simply don't know if there's a god or not. I don't think there's enough to prove or disprove it. There could be a god, but maybe not in the sense that everyone else's human minds think. That being said, our country, and most of what our society believes in, was FOUNDED on these religious ideas. That's great and all, but PLEASE don't expect me to follow them, especially if I'm living in a country that, before anything, is supposed to believe in individual freedom. If you're religious and you happen to believe sex holds a special place in humanity, good for you! I have nothing against that at all, but do NOT make rules and do NOT judge me based on something that you believe in that I DON'T believe in. So in the broad sense of living and well being in life, does porn affect that, I don't believe so. Can it? Yes. Just like alcohol can affect one's ability to act civil. Anything can be misused. __________________ I love lamp. Last edited by Stompy; 08-25-2004 at 12:14 PM..