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I'm 100% behind pretty much what everyone said Re: mind games, gossip, drama, mind reading, and so on. I would like to add one.
Being friends. If I approach a lady in a bar or wherever, get mixed signals (or just read her her wrong, very possible) and it later develops that she just wants to be friends, I'd prefer she not be offended if I don't want to be friends. And then just kind of lose contact with her. I can understand- this usually happens when I'm aiming high on the "looks ladder." If she's a reasonably good looking girl, she probably thinks that 90% of guys approaching her since her breasts started to come in was just trying to get in her pants (she's wrong- 99.9% is probably closer).
I'm an OK looking guy (babies don't cry when I enter the room anyway), I have a Masters degree in engineering, and am starting out in the entrepreneur path. I can see why, to such a girl, having a nice, decent, ambitious, steadily-employed guy interested in her platonically could be enormously validating. However, I already have what I consider to be plenty of friends. Some of them are girls. While there's some upside in a friendship for her, there's none for me. All I can possibly gain is continued proximity to something I desire and can't have, while getting to hear all about how her current boyfriend doesn't pay enough attention, yells at her, and so on.
Also, I didn't misrepresent myself. When I stepped up to her, I was clear that I was looking for more than friendship (the whole deal, not just sex). Since she doesn't want that with me, then let's both stop wasting time, shake hands, and move on.
Not to say that this has happened to me often, but it's happened before, and I get the feeling it's about to happen again with my most recent ex-romantic interest.
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