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While I would not leave my child (I love him and my wife too much), I'll throw out the child's perspective here.
If the child is very young (say less than 2 years old) then the child could probably recover from being given up. I was given up at birth and adopted by great parents. If you're considering leaving your child, then chances are you're probably not ready to be a parent at this time. If you choose to pursue this relationship, you should consider giving the child up for adoption, but you should do two things. First, ensure that the child's new parents will be excellent parents who have a parenting perspective that you are comfortable with (religious beliefs, life goals, college, etc). Second, make it a closed adoption and expect to never see your child again. I know this goes against what's currently popular with adoption, but the adopted people that I know tend to agree that this is the way to go. If you keep popping into and out of your child's life you will do much more harm than good.
This is a tough choice. I hope you make the right one.
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