Originally Posted by alicat

After nearly 16 yrs. together and many thousands of BJ's later (and we're both only 33) things fluctuate. I love to give them to him at any time unless I'm feeling ill, but the past year I've come (no pun intended!) down with acid-reflux and have found whereas I used to be able to deep throat, I now have a really sensitive gag-reflex. This has taken the joy out of the act for me consideratly . I'm not sure if he is even noticing near "the moment" that I'm practically about to ralph on his penis (I don't see how he couldn't given my gagging sounds ).

Then there's another side of the coin (or die, as in the muli-sided Dungeons and Dragons piece). Both DH and I were with a number of people before we got together and no one since (I hope! Yes I'm the strictly monogymous (sp) type). He says I'm the first one who ever gave him head and therefore has nothing to compare to. Everything I've always done seemed to do him fine but all of a sudden, the past year or so, he's started jumping in and masturbating himself the last minute or so before orgasim as if I wasn't cutting it. I continue to lick and massage him until the end. I read and do research and try to change it up, why would it suddenly not be enough for him? I'm starting to feel like just a means to an ends (by the way, everything else in our relationship is just peachy).

I don't mean to hijack, but do any of you guys have any imput on DH's behavior? Is it just natural (for men) after a lot of years with one person to want to cut to the chase and get it over with faster or something? Or is he maybe getting bored with the same mouth/techniques after so long? I hope not because we're both still young and have a lot of years of marriage to go before we die and I can't become all that much more proficient

I forgot to add: something like ShaniFaye said-if you aren't concerned about HIV/AIDS or Std's from the person then, "Love the one you're with". Suck, slurp, swallow or lick it up! For God's sake, it's just a small amount of bodily fluid and although it doesn't taste like chocolate, it's not foul and won't kill you! Where in the world would us women be, sex wise, if men refused to taste our secretions?!

Ali