Originally Posted by wilbjammin

Instead of focusing on these mechanical things as being the most important part of sex, just focus on the person you're with and gaining that emotional connection. It will make sex a meaningful experience rather than an alienating one. Instead of forcing yourself to maintain an erection, just go with it. Maybe you'll maintain one every now and then, or you'll get an erection quickly afterwards every now and then... just go with the moment and don't worry about it. There's no reason to.