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TM875 · 08-14-2004, 01:10 PM

Okay, first of all...you went and got yourself banned.

That being said, remember that the human body can handle a huge amount of pressures, both physically and psychologically. You can handle just as much as you want to handle.

Now, when I was your age, I went to school, dated one girl seriously, played professionally in a local concert band, and worked about 32 hours a week. With all that, I finished 40th in my class of 800 with a 4.3 (about 3.7ish unweighted) GPA. In fact, throughout my entire highschool career, I was always ranked 40th, so the extra pressures of my senior year didn't weigh me down.

Okay, here you go, the advice part. Your life is going to be insane for the next 9 months. If you can't rely on extremely easy teachers (which I had) or on natural intelligence (which I used when the teacher thing didn't pan out), then you can't cut back your attention to school. I don't know what your job is, but you probably need the money, so you can't cut back your attention to that.

This boy is just a boy. Just a single blip on the computer screen of life. You may totally and completely love him now, but let me tell you, the world will continue to spin without him. If he's that far away, then life without him might make you much happier. My girlfriend left me after we graduated - naturally I was at first upset, but I got over it. Found better people, had more fun, worked a lot more. The main thing was, I became happier. Now, my happiness was brought to me by a sense of myself that I did not have while with her. In other words, clinging to someone is not what you need - you need you.

Accept that life's little pieces will all fall together. Don't worry about the "perfect college" or the "best SAT scores" or even "accelling in school", because those things will come to you if you want them to come. You don't need him in your life - he's not the one you're going to marry - and he's probably screwing hot college girls while he's three hours away from you. Accept it. Now, go out and have fun with hot highschool boys while you're still in highschool. Acceptance is the only way to truly get happiness. If you don't accept your life as it is, then you're headed for depression and anxiety. Relax and let go.

On a completely unrelated not, that's my largest regret...not sleeping with more highschool girls while they were still legal to sleep with. When I graduated, I finally realized this...I'm never going to again have the chance to have a quickie with the cute freshman in the book closet...

edited due to my obsession with perfect spelling.

08-14-2004, 01:10 PM	#6 (permalink)
TM875 Addict Location: Amish-land, PA	Okay, first of all...you went and got yourself banned. That being said, remember that the human body can handle a huge amount of pressures, both physically and psychologically. You can handle just as much as you want to handle. Now, when I was your age, I went to school, dated one girl seriously, played professionally in a local concert band, and worked about 32 hours a week. With all that, I finished 40th in my class of 800 with a 4.3 (about 3.7ish unweighted) GPA. In fact, throughout my entire highschool career, I was always ranked 40th, so the extra pressures of my senior year didn't weigh me down. Okay, here you go, the advice part. Your life is going to be insane for the next 9 months. If you can't rely on extremely easy teachers (which I had) or on natural intelligence (which I used when the teacher thing didn't pan out), then you can't cut back your attention to school. I don't know what your job is, but you probably need the money, so you can't cut back your attention to that. This boy is just a boy. Just a single blip on the computer screen of life. You may totally and completely love him now, but let me tell you, the world will continue to spin without him. If he's that far away, then life without him might make you much happier. My girlfriend left me after we graduated - naturally I was at first upset, but I got over it. Found better people, had more fun, worked a lot more. The main thing was, I became happier. Now, my happiness was brought to me by a sense of myself that I did not have while with her. In other words, clinging to someone is not what you need - you need you. Accept that life's little pieces will all fall together. Don't worry about the "perfect college" or the "best SAT scores" or even "accelling in school", because those things will come to you if you want them to come. You don't need him in your life - he's not the one you're going to marry - and he's probably screwing hot college girls while he's three hours away from you. Accept it. Now, go out and have fun with hot highschool boys while you're still in highschool. Acceptance is the only way to truly get happiness. If you don't accept your life as it is, then you're headed for depression and anxiety. Relax and let go. On a completely unrelated not, that's my largest regret...not sleeping with more highschool girls while they were still legal to sleep with. When I graduated, I finally realized this...I'm never going to again have the chance to have a quickie with the cute freshman in the book closet... edited due to my obsession with perfect spelling. __________________ "I've made only one mistake in my life. But I made it over and over and over. That was saying 'yes' when I meant 'no'. Forgive me." Last edited by TM875; 08-14-2004 at 01:14 PM..