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I don't think he's insecure at all. I appreciate the 'nasty' look on some women but it would be a great turn off for me is she dressed like that. I think that's probably textbook hypocricy, but it's the truth and there's nothing I can do about it.
Your boyfriend doesn't want to think of you as 'nasty'. If you guys discussed it and gradually introduced something like this then I think it would work out a lot better.
As the moment if my girlfriend walked in in a 'nasty' outfit I'd be very freaked out, it would be very uncomfortable for me and I wouldn't want to see her in those sorts of outfits.
I'm sure I'll get slammed for being immature and hypocritical, but just as most people would find it an instant turn off if their partner introduced scat into their sex life, I'd find the 'nasty' look very uncomfortable.
My other guesses would be that it was just a very big surprise to him and he was in shock, and wasn't sure how to act. Or he finds that look degrading and holds you in very high regard, and has a lot of respect for you and is of the opinion that wearing those outfits would be degrading for you.
I'm just throwing out guesses here, I think you should ask him how he feels about your current sex life and go from there. Instead of introducing kinky new options he may not be comfortable with (which is fair enough) and then being upset that they don't work out, save the heartache and discuss it first.
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