Can someone with herpes have safe sex?
Ok, a little backstory to this question. I met a great girl about a month ago. We started dating and had some really engaging coversations. She's experienced a lot in her life thus far, as have I, and we shared many common interests. Eventually we get to a point where we are in a position to have sex. However, she politely stops me and carefully informs me that she has herpes. She made some bad choices in college and was one of the unlucky few to bring along something from her past.
My initial reaction was a childish "eww gross." But I thought about it for a while and I respected her for being honest with me and confronting me about before we became intimate. We've all got histories or baggage at some point so I don't hold any of her past against her. My question though, is it possible for someone with herpes to have safe sex, and not spread it to their partner? I've never confronted this type of situation nor have I ever really read about treatment and effects of the disease.
Comments, suggestions?
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