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Originally posted by ironchefrocks
I've read your other post in the birth control thread about not even being able to get an IUD. For some reason I'm more willing to accept that insurance or doctors don't want to do the surgery, but an IUD is, in theory, reversible. Did you try a planned parenthood or something like it for the IUD? If it's an insurance issue and you have the money to pay for a tubal ligation, I agree with maleficent - find a doctor who will perform it. Why one woman should be allowed to get silicone implants (breasts, butt, whatever) and you not allowed to decide definitively you don't want kids is beyond me.
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My doctor told me, regarding the IUD, that I couldn't get one because I've never had children and it's got something to do with my cervix not being large enough to accomodate the IUD. I know this can't be entirely true, because I know women who haven't had children who got an IUD. I've already asked my lovely coworker for a doctor recommendation, and I'm going to be making an appointment soon. Insurance should cover it. Gee, you'd think they'd be jumping all over themselves to get me an IUD and/or a tubal, which cost them a lot less than a baby! Thank you for your suggestion; I will have to check out Planned Parenthood.
As for the idea of "no one questions silicone implants but I can't get my tubes tied," I think there's a pervasive idea that all women must want to be mothers, that they have maternal instinct and must want more than anything to reproduce. I get this crap from my roommate: Since I'm a woman, it's not natural to not want children. Never mind the fact that I can't even keep a plant alive, I must have a baybee to validate my marriage and my womanhood. You know, if other people want to have children, that's fine. I commend good parents. But one would think that for every good parent, there's a bad one, and if I recognize that I'll be a bad parent
before I have children, I would think they'd respect my decision and make it so I can't visit myself on defenseless human being.