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Trisk · 08-08-2004, 09:59 PM

I never really thought of "bisexual", "straight" or "gay" as labels....I guess people do and people relate certain things to them but as far as I'm concerned, they're just terms to desribe who someone is attracted to. Saying "I'm bisexual" to me is like saying "I play tennis". That's nice. If I'm not into tennis, I won't play with you. But you can tell me about your games if you want.

Honestly...I don't see the difference. To say "I'm a girl who likes women" just sounds like needless words. It can just be summed up in one word.

As people have said, this is supposed to be a tolerant community. If that is so, nobody should be judging you for saying you're gay, bisexual or straight. And if they are judging you, they'll probably still judge you when you use a different phrase to describe your sexual preference.

I think taking out these words would just be confusing - a lot of people come here for relationship advice. Sometimes words like this can be good when talking about your predicament. For example, here are two paragraphs someone could type:

1. I've been going out with this girl for two years. Our relationship is starting to get rocky and my best friend, who's gay, has been sort of my go-to man for advice. Part of me wants to work through this crap with my girlfriend but my best friend keeps urging me to break up with her. He jokes about how I should just become gay and marry him. The thing is...he has told me he liked me in the past. I'm straight. It makes me very uncomfterble when he jokes about this. I've made it clear to him what my sexual preferences are.

2. I've been going out with this girl for two years. Our relationship is starting to get rocky and my best friend, who likes men, has been my go-to man for advice. Part of me wants to work through this crap with my girlfriend but my best friend keeps uring me to break up with her. He jokes about how I should start liking men and marry him. The thing is...he has told me he liked me in the past. I'm not into men. It makes me very uncomfterble when he jokes about this. I've made it clear to him what my sexual preferences are.

The differences don't seem that great here. If anything, all they do is make the second paragraph a little bit more vague.

08-08-2004, 09:59 PM	#23 (permalink)
Trisk Insane	I never really thought of "bisexual", "straight" or "gay" as labels....I guess people do and people relate certain things to them but as far as I'm concerned, they're just terms to desribe who someone is attracted to. Saying "I'm bisexual" to me is like saying "I play tennis". That's nice. If I'm not into tennis, I won't play with you. But you can tell me about your games if you want. Honestly...I don't see the difference. To say "I'm a girl who likes women" just sounds like needless words. It can just be summed up in one word. As people have said, this is supposed to be a tolerant community. If that is so, nobody should be judging you for saying you're gay, bisexual or straight. And if they are judging you, they'll probably still judge you when you use a different phrase to describe your sexual preference. I think taking out these words would just be confusing - a lot of people come here for relationship advice. Sometimes words like this can be good when talking about your predicament. For example, here are two paragraphs someone could type: 1. I've been going out with this girl for two years. Our relationship is starting to get rocky and my best friend, who's gay, has been sort of my go-to man for advice. Part of me wants to work through this crap with my girlfriend but my best friend keeps urging me to break up with her. He jokes about how I should just become gay and marry him. The thing is...he has told me he liked me in the past. I'm straight. It makes me very uncomfterble when he jokes about this. I've made it clear to him what my sexual preferences are. 2. I've been going out with this girl for two years. Our relationship is starting to get rocky and my best friend, who likes men, has been my go-to man for advice. Part of me wants to work through this crap with my girlfriend but my best friend keeps uring me to break up with her. He jokes about how I should start liking men and marry him. The thing is...he has told me he liked me in the past. I'm not into men. It makes me very uncomfterble when he jokes about this. I've made it clear to him what my sexual preferences are. The differences don't seem that great here. If anything, all they do is make the second paragraph a little bit more vague.