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Originally posted by onodrim
<b>I'm posting this response from one of our male members -</b>
Brian has been faithful to you the whole time. You on the other hand you had sexual relations with another person, tried to get away with it by not telling him about it, then got caught by the mutual friend. Now you are mad at Ryan becuase he told some secrets about you?
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I'm confused about a couple points here:
1) Maybe I read it wrong, but I believe Brian is the "friend" who is being manipulative and hurtful, where Ryan was the "boyfriend."
2) How is posting a "male member's" response any different than him posting it himself?
Anyway,
aphroditeskiss1, you are aware of the mistakes you've made. You have taken responsibility for them. It takes time for a person to learn to trust again, as you're finding out. Whether that person is worthy of that trust is something else. These are Ryan's lessons to learn now, and if you really care about him, and want to be with him, allow him that time to learn to trust you again. It's not a comfortable place to be, but it's necessary for a successful relationship. Just remember that any further transgressions will only damage your relationship more, and burden you with more guilt than you need to carry. I think you know this already.
Brian on the other hand sounds like a jealous immature child who's trying to lash out on behalf of his friend. His nasty belitting comments only make you feel bad and aren't constructive in the least. That's not how a real friend would act, so tread carefully.