I hate mind games. They are for insecure people. Insecure people are always trying to prove something. Frankly, the rest of us, don't care.
Say what you mean, mean what you say.
Do what you say, and say what you did.
Baggage also bugs me. I am not the last 10 guys you dated. If you've given up on men, please tell me in advance so I don't waste my time.
If one or two or eight guys break your heart, I don't really care. Cold? Not at all. I wasn't there to help, or dispense advice, and I can't invent a time machine so I can go back and tell you that you have made a wrong choice. And if I could, I'd get my ass kicked!
So seriously, if you've had some bad relationships, don't put me in the posistion to redeem my gender.
But baggage goes both ways. My roomate is a male, and he's only had one serious relationship. He has more baggage than any given female I've ever met, and I've met some dooseys. He's pretty fucked up in the head. So I'm only trying to prove my point. Generalizing a gender based on YOUR own personal history is bullshit and you should get over it.
Cut out the middle man, BE YOURSELF.
If I could engrave one thing in the minds of all women everywhere it would be the following:
Everything that has happened to you, has molded you into the person you are today. And whether you like it or not, you can not change it. Your history changes how you think, how you act, and who you choose to be. And who you choose to be, you should be happy with.