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With my first husband I didn't change my last name. At first I thought I'd hyphenate for the kids sake, but that was a pain in the butt. So, I simply kept my last name as that is what I had gone by professionally, etc. My 18-year-old son has my last name as well. My younger two ask me sometimes why they don't have my name -- but they like having their dad's name.
With Lebell I decided to change my name. I did this because it is a different relationship with a much stronger commitment. We want to be together for the rest of our lives. We have a much stronger bond and a much stronger love. Interestingly, he never asked me to change my name and has been extremely gracious in receiving the action as a gift. That made it all the easier to do.
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