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Trisk · 07-30-2004, 02:44 PM

Bah, I can't remember half of what I typed before but I'm typing up as much of it as I can remember

Some of this stuff will be shockingly obvious. But...most of these things are not rare, so I thought I might as well let you guys know how very, very annoying they are.

1. Don't stare at a girl like a piece of meat -- As Maleficient said, there's a huge difference between appreciative glances and staring at a girl like you're a dog with a piece of raw meat danging in front of you. I have to admit, it's nice and flattering to have a guy glance at you a few times and maybe even smile....but it's disgusting when a guy is practically drooling as he looks at you. There's a huge difference. Learn it.

2. Don't stare at a girl when you already have a girl around your arm -- I really hate when guys do this. So much. It's disgusting. Do you think girls are flattered to see someone who can't even respect the girl he's with checking them out? I find it to be a huge turnoff. Oh yeah...and this should go without saying, but don't try to talk to the girl you're checking out when your girlfriend is trailing behind you. We can see your girlfriend. Just because you want her to be invisible, doesn't mean she is.

3. Don't comment on her body -- If you're staring at a girl like a piece of meat, she probably already knows that to you, she's got nice a nice ass/tits/boobs/whatever. You don't need to tell her. It's tacky and it will only add to your nastiness factor....oh yeah, and this goes for turning to your guy friend(s) as she passes by and saying "look at the ass on that girl!"

4. Don't use bad, cliched and stupid pickup lines - Just don't do it. It's a joke. If you want to talk to a girl, you can just talk to her like you would any other human being. As stated above, commenting on her body parts or drooling over her breasts as you talk to her isn't going to get you anywhere. Saying "How you doin'" will most likely get a roll of the eyes and "Hey baby!", while an okay greeting for your girlfriend, isn't so great for that girl walking down the street. Especially if it's delivered while staring at her breasts (I'm sorry, but yes, I do feel the need to repeat this over and over again). Oh yeah, and while not exactly pickup lines, barking at a girl like a dog is NOT sexy. Neither is smooching in her direction as she walks by.

5. Don't dress like a slob -- This has been stated...but here I'm not even talking about baseball caps (even though they do look stupid backwards) or ripped jeans or a sort of stylized messyness. I'm talking about wearing clothes that don't fit, no name brand white tennis shoes, and things that scream "cheap". No...you don't have to spend $70 on a pair of pants...but you should be willing to spend at least $30. You should know what size you wear. I don't want to see your socks when you're walking around....and I don't want to see your boxers/butt either. That's not to say your pants should be so big that you look like a clown. Just look somewhat presentable and it will do wonders for you.

6. Complementing other girls doesn't mean you have to make yourself seem like a dumbass -- It's okay to complement that girl you're going after, but keep in mind that you're trying to IMPRESS the girl, not make her think she's better than you. As an example, here's a dialogue I had a few weeks ago with a guy:
Guy: "Wow! That's a big book! How long does it take you to read something like that?"
Me: "Oh, I don't know...two weeks?"
Guy: "That's impressive! 'Cause when I go to the bookstore, I just get so intimidated by books like that!"

Do you see what I mean? Not impressive.

7. Don't be uptight and anal - I don't know about other girls but I think it's the hugest turnoff when a guy gets so uptight about everything he owns. For example...if he brings you into his house and has to rearrange the rug every time you step on it...it's just not good. The girl (and most people) won't notice or care if the rug is a little bit ruffled. It's just annoying when they have to worry about every little thing they do when they're at your house.

8. Don't brag -- It makes you seem desperate and insecure - like you're trying way too hard. Don't pick up heavy objects and tell her how much they weigh. Don't tell her how much everything in your apartment is worth. If she likes how your apartment looks or admires your big arms, she'll be impressed. She won't need you to point them out to her.

And this last thing...It's more of a personal thing. Maybe other girls don't mind it that much. But here it goes:
8. I hate it when men who are clearly 20+ years older than me approach me. If they were good looking and confident, I might not mind...but more often than not, they're either these wimpy little pasty guys or they're just nasty and out of shape. And....more often than not, they do one of the things above. I amost find it insulting. A lot of times after one of these encounters, I'll find myself walking away almost angry or wondering why he thought that I was in his league. This is going to sound incredibely bitchy...but if you know you're out of shape/ugly, 40+ years old, and haven't had a long term relationship since college, maybe you should stop hitting on 20 year olds and start trying to get someone in your league.

07-30-2004, 02:44 PM	#12 (permalink)
Trisk Insane	Bah, I can't remember half of what I typed before but I'm typing up as much of it as I can remember Some of this stuff will be shockingly obvious. But...most of these things are not rare, so I thought I might as well let you guys know how very, very annoying they are. 1. Don't stare at a girl like a piece of meat -- As Maleficient said, there's a huge difference between appreciative glances and staring at a girl like you're a dog with a piece of raw meat danging in front of you. I have to admit, it's nice and flattering to have a guy glance at you a few times and maybe even smile....but it's disgusting when a guy is practically drooling as he looks at you. There's a huge difference. Learn it. 2. Don't stare at a girl when you already have a girl around your arm -- I really hate when guys do this. So much. It's disgusting. Do you think girls are flattered to see someone who can't even respect the girl he's with checking them out? I find it to be a huge turnoff. Oh yeah...and this should go without saying, but don't try to talk to the girl you're checking out when your girlfriend is trailing behind you. We can see your girlfriend. Just because you want her to be invisible, doesn't mean she is. 3. Don't comment on her body -- If you're staring at a girl like a piece of meat, she probably already knows that to you, she's got nice a nice ass/tits/boobs/whatever. You don't need to tell her. It's tacky and it will only add to your nastiness factor....oh yeah, and this goes for turning to your guy friend(s) as she passes by and saying "look at the ass on that girl!" 4. Don't use bad, cliched and stupid pickup lines - Just don't do it. It's a joke. If you want to talk to a girl, you can just talk to her like you would any other human being. As stated above, commenting on her body parts or drooling over her breasts as you talk to her isn't going to get you anywhere. Saying "How you doin'" will most likely get a roll of the eyes and "Hey baby!", while an okay greeting for your girlfriend, isn't so great for that girl walking down the street. Especially if it's delivered while staring at her breasts (I'm sorry, but yes, I do feel the need to repeat this over and over again). Oh yeah, and while not exactly pickup lines, barking at a girl like a dog is NOT sexy. Neither is smooching in her direction as she walks by. 5. Don't dress like a slob -- This has been stated...but here I'm not even talking about baseball caps (even though they do look stupid backwards) or ripped jeans or a sort of stylized messyness. I'm talking about wearing clothes that don't fit, no name brand white tennis shoes, and things that scream "cheap". No...you don't have to spend $70 on a pair of pants...but you should be willing to spend at least $30. You should know what size you wear. I don't want to see your socks when you're walking around....and I don't want to see your boxers/butt either. That's not to say your pants should be so big that you look like a clown. Just look somewhat presentable and it will do wonders for you. 6. Complementing other girls doesn't mean you have to make yourself seem like a dumbass -- It's okay to complement that girl you're going after, but keep in mind that you're trying to IMPRESS the girl, not make her think she's better than you. As an example, here's a dialogue I had a few weeks ago with a guy: Guy: "Wow! That's a big book! How long does it take you to read something like that?" Me: "Oh, I don't know...two weeks?" Guy: "That's impressive! 'Cause when I go to the bookstore, I just get so intimidated by books like that!" Do you see what I mean? Not impressive. 7. Don't be uptight and anal - I don't know about other girls but I think it's the hugest turnoff when a guy gets so uptight about everything he owns. For example...if he brings you into his house and has to rearrange the rug every time you step on it...it's just not good. The girl (and most people) won't notice or care if the rug is a little bit ruffled. It's just annoying when they have to worry about every little thing they do when they're at your house. 8. Don't brag -- It makes you seem desperate and insecure - like you're trying way too hard. Don't pick up heavy objects and tell her how much they weigh. Don't tell her how much everything in your apartment is worth. If she likes how your apartment looks or admires your big arms, she'll be impressed. She won't need you to point them out to her. And this last thing...It's more of a personal thing. Maybe other girls don't mind it that much. But here it goes: 8. I hate it when men who are clearly 20+ years older than me approach me. If they were good looking and confident, I might not mind...but more often than not, they're either these wimpy little pasty guys or they're just nasty and out of shape. And....more often than not, they do one of the things above. I amost find it insulting. A lot of times after one of these encounters, I'll find myself walking away almost angry or wondering why he thought that I was in his league. This is going to sound incredibely bitchy...but if you know you're out of shape/ugly, 40+ years old, and haven't had a long term relationship since college, maybe you should stop hitting on 20 year olds and start trying to get someone in your league.