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Prince · 07-29-2004, 01:42 PM

Of course I check out a woman's T&A, whether they're a friend of mine or not, if the goods are being displayed. I'm married, not dead... But because I am married, I won't sample them even if the opportunity came along. But that's just me.

And therein lies the problem. That it is just me, and furthermore, this is often a conscious decision. That you will not fuck that busty 18-year-old because you're married - not because you don't want to.

Not all people make these conscious decisions, and not all people who do make them are capable of holding onto them, or respecting others for their decisions.

A man can even befriend a woman with the explicit intention of drilling holes into her existing relationship. This is easier for a friend to do than one might think, because a friendship is typically not burdened by the same things as a long-term romantic relationship. You don't wake up to each other's morning breath, you don't know each other's bodies intimately enough for you to have lost interest in that regard, you don't share bills, chores, etc. And when a spouse has problems in the marriage, he or she is often more likely to bring them up first with a friend than with their own SO. A clever individual can easily take advantage of this position, and a less than clever individual may find it hard to resist - especially since that "special friend" may be already providing tremendous emotional comfort and closeness that the marital problems have made one crave.

I actually think the Ladder Theory, while it has some gaps, is fairly accurate if you feel the need to have some sort of weird guideline to go by. It doesn't apply to all situations and people, though, just as few rules ever do.

I find it interesting that so many women that I've discussed the subject matter with actually believe that they can tell whether their male friend/acquaintance is interested in them, sexually. Friendship, unlike marriage, is not covered by laws, there are no official agreements, it is all in your mind, expressed via actions, which can sometimes be misleading.

Ultimately, it comes down to this: in every relationship, there are two factors involved - namely, two people. One of which cannot, ever, under any given circumstances, know for a fact what the other person is thinking or feeling. It is interesting that so many women are so determined to argue that there can be friendships in which there is no sexual energy involved, and so many men are arguing that this isn't the case. While there obviously is no hard rule, as we're all different, I know what I am more likely to put my money on.

07-29-2004, 01:42 PM	#114 (permalink)
Prince /nɑndəsˈkrɪpt/ Location: LV-426	Of course I check out a woman's T&A, whether they're a friend of mine or not, if the goods are being displayed. I'm married, not dead... But because I am married, I won't sample them even if the opportunity came along. But that's just me. And therein lies the problem. That it is just me, and furthermore, this is often a conscious decision. That you will not fuck that busty 18-year-old because you're married - not because you don't want to. Not all people make these conscious decisions, and not all people who do make them are capable of holding onto them, or respecting others for their decisions. A man can even befriend a woman with the explicit intention of drilling holes into her existing relationship. This is easier for a friend to do than one might think, because a friendship is typically not burdened by the same things as a long-term romantic relationship. You don't wake up to each other's morning breath, you don't know each other's bodies intimately enough for you to have lost interest in that regard, you don't share bills, chores, etc. And when a spouse has problems in the marriage, he or she is often more likely to bring them up first with a friend than with their own SO. A clever individual can easily take advantage of this position, and a less than clever individual may find it hard to resist - especially since that "special friend" may be already providing tremendous emotional comfort and closeness that the marital problems have made one crave. I actually think the Ladder Theory, while it has some gaps, is fairly accurate if you feel the need to have some sort of weird guideline to go by. It doesn't apply to all situations and people, though, just as few rules ever do. I find it interesting that so many women that I've discussed the subject matter with actually believe that they can tell whether their male friend/acquaintance is interested in them, sexually. Friendship, unlike marriage, is not covered by laws, there are no official agreements, it is all in your mind, expressed via actions, which can sometimes be misleading. Ultimately, it comes down to this: in every relationship, there are two factors involved - namely, two people. One of which cannot, ever, under any given circumstances, know for a fact what the other person is thinking or feeling. It is interesting that so many women are so determined to argue that there can be friendships in which there is no sexual energy involved, and so many men are arguing that this isn't the case. While there obviously is no hard rule, as we're all different, I know what I am more likely to put my money on. __________________ Who is John Galt?