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Length of time knowing someone really has no bearing on the strength of a friendship. Either you are good friends or not. Friendships come and go through your life. People change, and as they change, the group of people that they consider their closest friends change along with them.
Just because you guys were childhood friends, doesn't mean that you will be 'Best Friends Forever". I rarely see the kids that I grew up with.
Your friends are the people who you are spending time with, working with, partying with, whatever. When your situation changes, and you no longer are spending time with people, that bond may or may not remain. Sounds like the bond between the two of you faded away as you two went through college. Maybe in your mind, the two of you were still "Best Friends", based on your history. But in reality, he had become just another old friend.
As you grow older, it becomes more likely that the people who become your friends will remain your friends for many years. Mainly because you have matured, and your interests and personality are less likely to continue evolving at the rate that it does through adolecense and early adulthood.
I still see some of my childhood friends from time to time. It is always good to see them, catch up and have a few laughs. But I also realize that we are different people now, and really aren't best friends anymore, although we were inseperable in our youth. These being people that I have both known since we shared a playpen together, on through to my buddies from High School and College.
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