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Originally posted by Vaultboy
I have read your thread in the Ladies Lounge ShaniFaye, and I have to ask if you ignored the girls who does not agree with you? More important than the numbers, have you looked at their reasons? It vindicates what a lot of guys have been saying here.
And a few things that I think you are ignoring:
1. Just because there is no ACTIVE sexual energy between you and your friends does not mean that there never wil be.
2. Many women said that some of their male friends did register an interest in getting more out of the relationship, but tat they didn't pursue it because it would jeopardise the friendship, etc etc. Your logic in seeing this as instances of sex not being involved boggles me. You dont have to be bonking for there to be sexual energy in a relationship, even if its only coming from one side. Because to any boyfriend that represents a clear and present danger. The fact that you turned him down did not automatically make his feelings go away. Yes, he is able to restrain himself from jumping you, but that is no great feat. Most men entertain the thought of fucking half the women they see, but they dont. Even Doos in his post above betrayed that basic "Would I or wouldn't I?" reflex thought that flashes through the male subconscious.
Ignoring the facts doesn't change them, ShaniFaye.
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i agree.
and the problem with setting boundaries is that some people (like me) just really don't want to infringe on their SO's personal space and make them completely self-concious all the time or.. *ramble*