maleficent

First off... It's her decision not yours, and if you think the doctor is going to get off on sticking something in her you really need to get a clue...

I have had a male gyno for years, and prefer it. All you want is a doctor who will listen and understand, that's not something that only women do.

Now I have a few questions:

1. What exactly are they going to do?
Before she gets undressed, since it's her first visit the doctor will talk to her for a little bit, to see where she is, and if she has any questions./
She will be asked is she's sexually active - and what she's done and what birth control she's on. BE HONEST.
2. Will it hurt? What will hurt? How much will it hurt?T
The speclum is a little uncomfortable, and the pap smear is a little uncomfortable. but hurt? No. The speclum is what the doctor inserts to get a view of her inner workings, and makes it easier to access. The speclum can be a little chilly, that's what is uncomfortable, most doctors will warm it up.
her breasts will also be checked for lumps or any signs of tumors, she will also probably be given instruction on how to do self exams.
3. How long will it take?
5 minutes
4. Am I allowed to go in with her for the exam? She does not want to go alone. She is terrified. And bloody hell so am I (although i am not telling her this - no need to make it worse).
ABSOLUTELY DO NOT!! NO NO NO NO NO... The doctor by law must keep everything she says confidential, if her botfriend is standing there, she's not going to be totally honest in her answers - do you really want to know about her menstrual cycle or other things? Does she really want to tell you about that?

There will always be a nurse present. Doctors know this is not awoman's favorite activity - and are sympathetic to that. SHould you go in? NO

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