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Originally posted by denim
Why should either of you? You're just showing your insecurities.
I have a bunch of female friends who are or have been paired off. I've slept, meaning slept with some of them, but not all. It is possible. You're hurting yourself and her if you make much of this.
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I feel this needs to be said: So, he's insecure. I am too. I am open to my GF about this and she knows. A good GF will try and reassure you, and try to alleviate your fear and insecurity. Just as a good BF would.
My GF has more guy friends than girl friends. All of them I know now, and I do not feel insecure when she's with them, except for one, which is not a friend anymore. But I still would not like it if she went to dinner, movies etc. with them alone, especially in the evening. And if I can go along I want to go along. If I am not welcome something IS wrong.
The one guy that is no friend anymore, had in the past asked her out. Thats a no no for me already as far as friendship goes. Hes intentions are CLEARLY not friendly. One day before my GF lived with me, I went to her house to find him there, staring at her breasts while she was busy with something. I kicked his fucking ass. You don't get to stare at her body, especially not in such an improper way.
Its not that i don't trust her, its that I don't trust the guy. What if he gets her drunk at dinner? What the fuck then? These are things that i would not be able to handle so I avoid a situation like that any way I can. Before she met me she'd get drunk with these guys and they'd carry her around etc. And thats just NOT ON. Get your hands the fuck off.
I am insecure. I am over protective. I am jealous. When i am overseas on business and I hear one of her male friends are there it drives me nuts. But I love her, and we meet eachother half-way. She does not go out with her male friends without me, and I don't go out with female friends without her. We are both happy this way. My feelings may not be Politically Correct, but I am honest about them, and I will not apologize for them.