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Holo · 07-25-2004, 06:59 AM

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Originally posted by saut
My girlfriend and I have been dating for a year and we truly love each other. We've never even remotely contemplated anything but monogamy. Having more than the two of us involved in our sexual encounters never even entered my mind. Tonight was an absolute shock. First of all, these girls are both such goodie-twoshoes it's rediculous. "Slut" is not a word that even comes close to describing either one of these girls. I've known them for a long time, and something like this is totally out of left field for either one of them.

Maybe that's exactly why they did it. Sexually adventurous girls aren't sluts...girls who indiscriminately have sex with anyone to gain something are sluts, tho the definition is open to interpretation. Just feel damn lucky they decided to choose you as their adventure. She may never decide to do this again. I wouldn't bring it up at all except for saying "thanks for my present" or something like that. This does not need a serious discussion, especially if you want a repeat preformance. She's not doing this with other guys so don't fuck a gift horse in the mouth.

How the hell did this happen? Does it have something to do with the fortune cookie I got with lunch today that read, " People find it hard to resist your persuasive manner."

You forgot to add "in bed" to that fortune

It happened because your gf feels comfortable with you to show a more adventurous side of herself to you. She feels secure enough to share you with a friend in a normally vanilla life. She may wanna do more, it might be a one time thing. The biggest thing is to not make anything over it. Let her know you enjoyed it and leave it at that. If she wants a repeat or something more than that then she'll let you know. You're lucky in more ways than one...you have a gf that really trusts you sexually. Don't fuck it up.

How could this effect my relationship with my girlfriend? I love her to death, and she I. I'm talking to her online right now, and she seems totally cool with everything. The friend, however, is still there with her, so who really knows for sure until she leaves.

Read above, and read this: Don't read into it, don't think too much about it. Thinking is not good for adventure.

I'm really sort of confused right now, if you didn't already notice from my jumbled, rambling paragraphs. She can't be mad at me, can she? Like, how could I resist that? Any input on my situation would be really, really appreciated.

It sounds like she totally initiated everything with her friend a willing comrade. I mean you didn't ask or expect this. She totally did this of her own free will. If she's mad at you, it's kinda a stupid reason.

But you know, the worst part about this is that I can't tell my friends -- I don't want them to think the wrong things about my girlfriend, or her friend for that matter.

Good call. Take comfort in the fact that all the straight males on this board hate you for what you've done. Brag all you want online, you deserve it. But it's not necessary to tell anyone IRL about this. Plus you run the added risk of making your gf close off sexually as she won't trust you and think you immature for "kissing and telling", especially if she's as straightlaced as you say she is.

Another problem is that one of my best friends used to like this girl a LOT (my gf's friend). I feel really guilty talking to him now, ESPECIALLY when he talks about her. Not to mention that this girl is the younger sister of one of my best female friends.

Lose the guilt. They took advantage of you, and that's a Good Thing. The other girl was down with this from the start, so you should hold no guilt at all. These girls made a sexual choice, just like guys have been free to do forever. Women are free to make these hoices and be sexual, and we should do all possible to encourage it. Again, you're thinking about this too damn much.