Being the "guy-friend" in a few cases, here's my take on it.
One of my friends is filing for divorce, because everytime she went out with any guy, or even drinking with her girlfriends he'd spell out his mistrust in her, and tell her he didn't want her hanging out with other guys. She decided she wasn't going to live WITHOUT friends, and moved out, luckily in this situation it's been a peaceful divorce, and they're working with each other to seperate and move their own ways.
Another friend of mine had a boyfriend who bought her a cell phone (leash as she called it), and well not because of the cellphone alone, but needless to say his mistrust led to her mistrust of him, and the relationship quickly deteriorated. She is now with a guy who understands that I'm just a friend, and doesn't get offended, or change his attitude when I'm around, and I've told her that he's a keeper!
I have two or three more of these examples, but needless to say when you don't trust your significant other the relationship isn't going to go anywhere. If you trust her, and you're really observant you'll notice a complete change in that person if they are cheating... I can't explain it, because people are different, but if you really know the person you're with, you'll know, and it doesn't require the Spanish Inquisition.
I would let her be, if you can't, you'll probably end up just getting into arguments and arguments over the long run, and will have a miserable break-up, and maybe learn next time "having friends" is OK!
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