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Old 07-21-2004, 06:32 AM   #3 (permalink)
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Originally posted by Jon Arbuckle
Why can't she do the same for me?!..
Because she's sensible.

Friends are friends, and gender doesn't really matter, regardless of all the bullshit you hear about people being unable to be friends with people of the opposite sex. I have male friends, ratbastid has female friends. We trust each other, and if anything ever did take a sexual turn, we would have a discussion about it (granted, we have a sort of unconventional marriage).

If you're overprotective and insecure, you need to work on what's at the root of the problem, not eliminate the symptom by insisting that your girlfriend spend time only with people you approve of and don't feel threatened by. That's not a healthy relationship. And just because you can't imagine having female friends doesn't mean that you should apply your needs and desires to your girlfriend - she's her own person with her own needs, ideas, and FRIENDS and if you don't trust her because of your own insecurities, maybe the problem isn't her behavior.
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