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Sounds to me like you have a lack of trust in her which stems from her lack of communication with you which is coming from the fact that you are desperately in love with her (note: desperate is not a good thing), and thus trying to find tons ways to do things differently and "save" the relationship (read: not being yourself, the person she fell in love with in the first place).
That's just my humble observation from what you've written. It could be wrong, it could be right... every relationship varies quite a bit, but most of them follow the same rules.
One of the tricky parts to understand is that her problems communicating to you may be caused by you - not her. She may be unwilling to communicate because she is upset that you dont trust her enough, and as such doesnt think that it is fair that she has to reassure you of something that she shouldnt not have to. At the same time, you dont trust her because she does not communicate. Fix the root of the problem - stop being so controlling about the communication and her faith in your trust will start rebuilding.
The harder part to understand is that although your heart is in the right place, it is very easy to take things too far when all you do is listen to the pounding of blood. To much love can and will smother a relationship, especially in it's early stages. If she feels that you are desperate and that your life is revolving around hers, she may be overwhelmed. Even the strongest fires need air to breath.
Simple advise: try to be yourself more, hopefully she fell in love with you for who you are. Good luck.
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