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grebote · 07-19-2004, 08:00 AM

Thanks everyone for posting and giving your two cents. I've been unable to get to a computer all weekend to check up on the thread. I feel a little comforted that I am not the only one going through this.

Here's an update, and I don't quite know what to make of it. Last friday I posted this thread because she was in a really bad mood and really self-loathing herself. Later that day, I went over to her house and she explained to me a little bit of what was going on in her head. I think she had just figured out part of the problem, but I don't know if this is a good thing or a bad thing.

She told me that when I am with her, everything is great, she thinks less bad things about herself, because she is busy being with me and having fun and just relaxing. When I go away (for the night, or, during the school year, the week or two) these self-doubts creep back into her head, she thinks she is not good enough for me or anyone else, etc. Basically what it boils down to is that she needs me, and I don't quite know what to make of it. It's not like I can be there to hold her hand all the time, and she said as much. She said that she had to work on this, and that's a good thing.

But the problem is still there, and I don't want to be made to feel guilty for not being with her all the time. I'm just afraid that she has become dependant upon me, and that's never a good thing, in my opinion.

07-19-2004, 08:00 AM	#25 (permalink)
grebote Upright	Thanks everyone for posting and giving your two cents. I've been unable to get to a computer all weekend to check up on the thread. I feel a little comforted that I am not the only one going through this. Here's an update, and I don't quite know what to make of it. Last friday I posted this thread because she was in a really bad mood and really self-loathing herself. Later that day, I went over to her house and she explained to me a little bit of what was going on in her head. I think she had just figured out part of the problem, but I don't know if this is a good thing or a bad thing. She told me that when I am with her, everything is great, she thinks less bad things about herself, because she is busy being with me and having fun and just relaxing. When I go away (for the night, or, during the school year, the week or two) these self-doubts creep back into her head, she thinks she is not good enough for me or anyone else, etc. Basically what it boils down to is that she needs me, and I don't quite know what to make of it. It's not like I can be there to hold her hand all the time, and she said as much. She said that she had to work on this, and that's a good thing. But the problem is still there, and I don't want to be made to feel guilty for not being with her all the time. I'm just afraid that she has become dependant upon me, and that's never a good thing, in my opinion.