07-17-2004, 05:58 AM
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Location: Massachusetts, USA
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Mechanics of Marriage article
Interesting article in The Dallas Morning News about how marriage works.
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The keynote address
John Gray, one of the most famous relationship authors, is at the podium, digging through a woman's purse. He's known for his work describing the differences between men and women: particularly his book Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus (Harper Collins, 1992). The purse is helping illustrate his point.
Earlier, he pulled out his wallet. He has two credit cards, a driver's license and some cash.
Women, he says, carry around much more. To demonstrate, he pulls out of the huge purse a cellphone, a planner, a makeup bag and a smaller pocketbook. The audience bursts into laughter.
It's an effective metaphor. The different ways men and women respond to situations can cause relationships and marriages to unravel.
Instead, Dr. Gray thinks they should be reasons for relationships to succeed. But first, we must understand them. For example, take stress.
When men have a stressful day at work, they want to go home and retreat "to their cave."
Maybe the cave is sitting in front of the television. Maybe it's behind the newspaper. The thing is: They don't want to talk. They want to forget.
Women, on the other hand, come home from a stressful day and want their husbands to notice. They want to talk. They want a hug.
And what do men do?
"I'm going to be a really loving husband," Dr. Gray says. "I'm going to ignore her."
There was laughter again. The audience gets it. That's what the man wants. Not what his wife needs.
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What do you married, or formerly married, people think of this? |
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