grebote

Thank you for your kind responce, maleficent.

I really like the volunteering idea, the only problem is us finding the time to do it. See has almost no free time (either she is working or down a couple states taking summer classes) and in the fall I will be seeing even less of her. We haven been doing this for a couple years and are sort of used to it but it is still hard.

I have tried to help her with her self-esteem, but I am afraid I am just not good at it, and just when I think I may have helped, she gets into one of these ruts again.

I think you are onto something with the finding something she is passionate about. I am sitting here trying to think of something, but I am having trouble. It's just that she never really wants to relax, she always wants to work and keep herself busy, and I think she does this to avoid her thoughts. Her main hobby is crocheting, but I would not say she is passionate about it.

It just always seems like she is never happy where she is, she always wants to be doing something else, but she never has the courage to get up and find what she really wants.